Right Owner, Right Dog, Wrong Home
So that doesn't make sense....or does it.
What do I mean, 'right owner, right dog, wrong home.'
I must hear or read on social media every couple of months of someone who has a dog, loves their dog, maybe has experience of dogs, but the dog they have just is not working out.
Our society is driven towards a, you must persevere attitude and make it work. I agree to an extent. I've had dogs that at teenage stage time I've thought 'why me?' what am I doing wrong, why can't this dog behave like my other dogs.
I've been there, and worked through it with blood, sweat and tears.
BUT, what I have found with experience is that not all breeds or dogs are compatible to all homes.
For example; working dogs like collies and springers would not be suited to a coach potato home. Collies suit homes where exercise is the key focus and likely a dog experienced home.
A pug would not suit a home who love walking up mountains.
So those are the common sense examples, but actually it goes deeper than that. Even within breeds and litters, there are some pups who are calmer, some more outgoing and believe it or not some that actually prefer to live in an adult only home or one without children! What's that I hear you wail....but Labradoodles are great with children, they are therapy dogs, they are the answer to all my prayers.....mmmmm that's maybe what other breeders like to feed you.
I have experience of pups who actively move away from young children when they come to visit, just as I have pups who actively seek out the children. Even in one litter there are pups whose temperament will be biased towards different home set ups. This is why almost all reputable breeders will not reserve on colour or sex, we want to get it right for our dogs. We want the right family fit and we are not interested in the 'I want a red female with white toes and sparkly eyes.'
Talking with other UK breeders, we all agree, not every puppy in every litter is suited to any and every home environment. It is so important to trust in your breeder and make sure your family members come to see the puppies to watch the interactions that take place.
This is where my 'right owner, right dog, wrong home' comes in. If you have a pup with children and the pup isn't happy in that scenario. Then do the best for the home and pup and seek out the breeders support in returning the pup, or rehoming through a breed specific rescue if a returning contract isn't issued.
If you are someone who lives in a flat with no garden access, again this breed would not be right for you.
If you are someone who wants a steady, predictable, ploddy dog, again this breed or some pups may not be suitable.
Some homes are amazing. Some pups are amazing. But occasionally the timing, or the partnership just isn't the right fit through no ones fault.